Becoming a Confident Mom: My Journey to Self-Assurance

Being a mom is a dream come true. I was surprised by this reality. I was fearful of becoming a mother. I was afraid I would repeat the mistakes or come up with new ways to ruin my children because of my past traumas. I am lucky to have a tender hearted, empathetic, emotionally intelligent, fun-loving, boisterous two-year-old. But I’m also taking responsibility for some of it! I am a good mom. The things I do are based on some newfound values. These are values I wasn’t clear about until I became a mother.

This is the story of how I became Self-Confident AND a Stay At Home Mom.

I’ve always advocated for self-help, consuming books and knowledge anywhere I could get it. I suppose that’s been my coping mechanism for the things I can’t control. To know what I can, so I can make the best decisions when it’s time to make them. And even more importantly, expand my perspective beyond my own.  When my husband and I decided to have a child, it was like anything else you’ve ever put your foot down and sai,d “I don’t care what it takes, I’m going to do this, and it’s going to be awesome!” We knew we wanted this badly enough to make it a priority, and never look back.

But it’s funny how you can wake up one day determined, motivated, excited, and then life happens, and you wonder where did all that positive energy go?! How many projects have you started with excitement, but somehow never finished, or changed your mind halfway through completion and had to make a pivot? There have been SO many, I can barely count! But there have ALSO been a TON of things I HAVE completed, have accomplished, but didn’t keep at the top of my mind on the days I felt tired or defeated. Finding my motivation, over and over again is what gives me the confidence to attack any new challenge, whether it’s career woes, sleep regressions, and milestone challenges, or marital challenges along the way.

As I’ve joined social groups, talked to other moms, and simply listened I realized that SO many moms struggle with the same feelings I have as a mother. Some days I wonder if I’m doing enough, am I doing it right, am I getting enough me time, is my husband getting enough attention, why am I so exhausted ALL the time? How do I focus on joy while my hormones are wreaking havoc on my mind and my body? So, I decided to share my wins, and my failures. We are not alone in this; we are stronger together. I want to share what has worked to make me feel Confident, powerful, healthy, beautiful, sane, and proud of who I am as a woman, and as a mom in hopes my insights and resources can help you too!

I ALWAYS want to hear your feedback, criticism, insights, and your needs. Please share your comments or use my contact link!

My first piece of advice to you is to be kind to yourself, love others, and most importantly, learn to love yourself.

Cheers to new beginnings and stronger YOU!

Monique